New Suxs Thread

[Kirahfaye]

I can assure you that NO wife considers her "Darling Husband" a designated hitter!

[SpiralPrince]

So last night was a bad one at work. I had to hold myself back several times from just saying "OKAY BYE BYE" and walking out. I'm still working on turning in applications and am going up to the career services building at the college tomorrow so hopefully I'll be able to give my two weeks notice sometime soon.

[cirquemom]

I've been wondering for ages now - what does DH stand for? Dear Husband or something?

It stands for Designated Hitter. In the American League the DH hits in the pitcher's spot. In the National League pitchers still have to bat. During inter league play both teams abide by the DH/no DH rules of the home team.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Designated_hitter

Don't talk to me about baseball.
Damn Giants.

[SpiralPrince]

I am extremely pissed off at my moms wiener dog right now. My door was closed, but it doesn't close very tight because a cable has to go through my door; and Cailyn was sitting safely (I assumed) on my desk. SO my moms fiance is walking through the living room and she says she thinks the dog crapped in my room so I go in and Cailyn's on the floor in freaking pieces. I wanna strangle the stupid dog right now. I had put him where I thought he was safe but the dog must have knocked against my desk. So add that to the growing number of obistu bodies I need to buy. I feel so sorry for Cailyn....

[cirquemom]

ERG! That happened to me with a basket of dolls I had in my bedroom, and the door was CLOSED. I was in teh other room and the puppy had been quiet for a while, which is suspicious. I walked into the laundry room to find the basket and three MSDs with their headplates and wigs off. A Planet Doll Tara, DIM Odelia, and I think it was my Iplehouse Tatiana. Almost $1000 worth of dolls. Thank goodness all that came out of it was a couple of teethmarks on the Tara's head up near the top so they don't show. No hands or feet chewed. The puppy seemed mostly interested in the wigs. Little shit. He had apparently kept bouncing at my door until it came open.

[AlmySidaKay]

Been dealing with my sister who has extreme bipolar since we announced the wedding. She's getting married this year and before we actually got engaged, she wouldn't stop telling both Matt and I about how excited she was if we got engaged and got married this year. She even told family too, and then the day we got engaged she was super happy, and then next day she went manic and flipped the heck out, I've been called every thing possible, and she suddenly can't understand why "I have to get married in her year" and has told me "don't expect any of mom's time she is mine until i get married" So, now my engagement has been marred by her behaving like a 5 year old. I'm sure she will come around, but this sure reminded me that I need to think before adding her to things like my bridal party and such. She's had such a good handle on her bipolar issues in the last several years so it was an exceptional blow. But with her planning her own wedding in a few months, I'm sure she's beyond more stressed than usual and so I'm sure she's likely to have manic episodes more often.

[Trethowan]

I can see that. Being agreeable about something that isn't definite is totally different than facing the reality of it. We can say we're OK with the idea of a thing but when it actually happens our attitudes can shift dramatically. And of course weddings can be horrifically stressful to plan and I imaging siblings trying to plan such huge events in the same year would be really stressful, especially if parents are footing the bill. If there are greater chances of overlap I could see how your sister might fear a loss of resources, time, and attention.

Most weddings take at least 8 months of planning, though I managed mine in six months. Barely. August is right around the corner. If you just now got engaged, I can't imagine you'd even be ABLE to have a wedding before February at the earliest, much less do it this year. It takes at least 5 months to get your dress altered, most bakeries book eight months in advance for cakes, and the same goes for available quality florists, caterers, bands, DJs, photographers, and locations. Even with six months to plan the only locations that could hold my guests were all booked up. I literally had ONE choice and I didn't even choose the weekend, the location's availability chose the weekend for me. It was the ONLY time they were available and that was my own church which wasn't my first choice cause I had wanted to serve champagne.

If she came first (schedule wise) it makes sense that she might naturally waffle between being happy for you and being jealous that you're potentially overshadowing her own upcoming wedding. How far apart are the weddings you're planning? If she's still a few months out then it sounds like you guys are practically scheduled back to back. Honestly that's not cool. My sister would have killed me if I tried to have my wedding so close to hers. Neither sibling would be able to devote herself to her getting-married sister cause they're both too busy being brides to help out, the parents might not have the time or resources to handle two weddings in one year, friends and family might be taxed in providing time, gifts, and showers to two in one year. The throwing of showers can be quite expensive, and honestly it seems catty but it's the Bride's time. Having to share the spotlight with another bride-to-be would suck.

I would not want to get married within months of my sister. It just isn't cool and it's not something I'd come around to.

[quidam]

Most weddings take at least 8 months of planning

It is more than possible to do it much shorter, though, as long as you're not planning on something super fancy. I know a few people who have gotten married in just a couple of months time. My mom and step dad only waited about 3 months. Heck, I even know one couple that met and were married within 2 weeks time! (I think they're near the 20th anniversary, so it can work out!)

I can't speak toward the jealousy aspect. You just have to do what you feel is best for you and your situation. It may make her upset in the temporary, but life will go on for both of you.

[AlmySidaKay]

My fiance wanted to get married this year it's the only time he has off in the next about year and a half from work, the reason we chose Vegas is because we are basically eloping, and just our inner family is going to be joining us out there. We bought an all inclusive package so everything is covered. (literally everything even dress and tux rentals). And then the place we are going afterwards well, our reception will be super tiny, and neither of us like wedding cake, so a lot of things that normal brides would have, we just are not going to have to deal with. Her wedding is September 22, and mine is November 30. She is also my younger sister, and has been throwing in my face that she finally gets to do something before me. (Of which I still didn't understand why that was so important for her to remind me about). My fiance just wanted to go down to the court house, but I said I wanted to at least wear a dress so this was our way to compromise so that it was less people, but still gave me a princess feel.

[famedglory]

Almy - I'm sure your wedding will be lovely and just right for you guys. If my husband and I could go back in time, we totally would have done a short engagement and a Vegas wedding instead of our very lovely large family wedding that drove everyone insane. Your wedding seems to be more about the coming marriage than the wedding itself, which is a good thing, and you and your fiance need to do what's best for your lives and marriage regardless of what's going on with the rest of your family. Most brides get set off by something about this time before the wedding regardless of how they normally behave, so your sisters behavior does make some sense, even if it is unfair to you. I'm sure it's really more about her feelings about her own wedding that are just being taken out on you, and I'm sorry for that. But as she will eventually realize that you have your own wedding basically taken care of and aren't trying to steal her big day, things will calm down. I remember my mom freaking out because she felt that the wedding shower my sister planned for me was too distracting from the wedding itself which was about two months apart. People just get weird with weddings.