by OkamiKodomo » Thu Jan 10, 2013 12:13 pm
~flails~ To those of you that have been adults for longer than me, does anyone know how to convince overbearing mothers to back off? I appreciate that she's helping me with my move but I do NOT want her staying with me for a week in my new apartment. She wants to help me set up and get settled, which I am grateful for, but do not want. I will be going back to work almost the very next day, and I want to come home and mosey about unpacking my things at my own pace, and set things up the way I want them, where I want them, how I want them. How do I go about saying "Mom, I love you, I truly do, but I don't want to deal with you cluttering up my space for a week or two while I'm trying to adjust to a new environment." I tried suggesting her going home as soon as we get unloaded and I got "You know it really feels like you're just going to drain me dry and then ship me off on a plane! I wish I had a mother like me, and you just don't appreciate me!" I'm trying to be understanding, and realize she just wants to help, and she's still suffering from some empty nest syndrome now that my younger brothers are gone (though really, they've been gone almost two years already...) but it's really important to me to be able to do this on my own. I want to be able to look around and say to myself, "Look what you can do."
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