New Suxs Thread

[arrowchild]

My husband and I had to make the very difficult decision yesterday to talk to his parents about their living conditions. My MOL is a compulsive hoarder, (I've only ever seen a couple of houses on any of the hoarding TV shows that are worse than theirs).

We were gentle about it, but my MOL was extremely defensive and got very nasty, particularly toward me. I know it's not really personal and that she clearly has a mental illness, but it hurt. A lot. And she's adamant that she doesn't need, or want, professional help, though she 'knows' that she has a problem.

My husband and I have talked about the options. I've looked into Adult Protective Services, as they're older and my dad in law is disabled, as well as options with the local health department and the APL, since she has over a dozen cats, but it isn't going to be pretty.

I'm also more than a little angry that between my husband and his adult three siblings, I'm the one who's having to spearhead this and play the 'bad guy.'

*sigh*

I'm sorry, I know this is a bit of a pointless rant, it's just that between my health over these past few years and problems in my own family, I just don't feel like I have the reserves for this right now.

But how can I sit back and watch two people I love live in such dangerous conditions?

[famedglory]

But how can I sit back and watch two people I love live in such dangerous conditions?

(((hugs))) You can't. I know how draining it is trying to get someone to help themselves when they don't want to change. I know that even if they'll never appreciate it and rather than thank you they'll blame you and take out misdirected anger on you, you have to at least try rather than sit back and watch them slowly kill themselves with their behavior. Knowing you at least tried is worth their anger. Just be careful that if it gets to be too much for you to handle, you need to be able to step back. I know you need to try, but you can't let your own life be ruined because others refuse to take care of themselves. Sorry for advice that is probably not my place to give, just know that you're not actually alone.

[KitKat]

You could always host a book burning party.









(y'all know I'm kidding, right???) HEHE

AM I a bad person for laughing at this?

[Mirrin]

My boyfriend is going to his little brother's engagement party this weekend and is missing my graduation.

[Trethowan]

You could always host a book burning party.









(y'all know I'm kidding, right???) HEHE

AM I a bad person for laughing at this?

YOU MONSTER!

[Trethowan]

But how can I sit back and watch two people I love live in such dangerous conditions?

(((hugs))) You can't. I know how draining it is trying to get someone to help themselves when they don't want to change. I know that even if they'll never appreciate it and rather than thank you they'll blame you and take out misdirected anger on you, you have to at least try rather than sit back and watch them slowly kill themselves with their behavior. Knowing you at least tried is worth their anger. Just be careful that if it gets to be too much for you to handle, you need to be able to step back. I know you need to try, but you can't let your own life be ruined because others refuse to take care of themselves. Sorry for advice that is probably not my place to give, just know that you're not actually alone.

I agree. It's really hard to watch when people you care about do things to harm themselves. We can try to a point but we can't do it for them. People have to want help before they'll listen.

I wish you all the best Arrowchild.

[absynthe1972]

After 41 years, I've finally figured out I have an acerbic personality. Blunt, bitter (to receive and give). *shrugs* I don't know if this qualifies as a sux or not. Just a realization. Maybe it belongs in the sux because it took me so long to figure out? Or that I really don't care?

[arrowchild]

thanks famedglory and Tret *big hugs*

[Mirrin]

I fell down some sketchy wood stairs at my mom's this morning. I have huge knots on my arms and legs now! It really hurts... I just mostly feel dumb for falling down them.

[mochi.kochi]

I just bought a brush cleaner to redo Amber's face up aaaand it won't come off.
I tried rubbing alcohol but nope nothing. Uugh i have to look for a higher percentage alcohol or a different brush cleaner. At least my brother can use the cleaner