New Suxs Thread

[DollyKim]

Bummer- it's triple digits and we can't run the cooler because we're getting the kitchen floor patched. It's all done now but it's dripping hot out here. Part of the reason my dolls are usually barefoot too so the soft plastic shoes won't react with them.

[SpiralPrince]

I'm starting to get depressed today. It just randomly turns up sometimes... usually when everyone's offline.
It just hit's me that I'm almost twenty and I have no idea who I am or who I want to be.

[DollyKim]

Neither did I at that age. My first job had nothing to do with my fields of studies or hobbies but it paid the bills. I practiced my other skills and got better. I didn't get in to custom dolls until my 30s and they ended up teaching me a bunch of other skills I never thought I'd have.

Being offline is the internet's way of telling you to find a non computer hobby.

[quidam]

It just hit's me that I'm almost twenty and I have no idea who I am or who I want to be.

That's very normal.
And you know what? Those who think they know, especially at your age, rarely end up being what they thought in the long run. I think the only ones who ever really fully understand their purpose are those who are very late in life. They can look back and see the whole picture. Those at the front of their lives can only guess.

Sometimes, the absolute best thing to do when you feel that way is find purpose for the moment you are in now. It doesn't have to be something grand. Perhaps it will be something as simple as creating a quick piece of art, or writing an elderly family member. Perhaps it will be taking a walk and observing nature around you. (even big cities have nature, if you look!) All of the little purposeful moments you make will eventually add up and you'll find out one day who you've become.

And you know what? Allowing yourself to just become who you need to be without striving toward some set out goal, that may or may not be obtained, is a lot less stressful in the long run.

Ralph Waldo Emerson sums it up very well in the quote "Life is a journey, not a destination."

[Trethowan]

I'm starting to get depressed today. It just randomly turns up sometimes... usually when everyone's offline.
It just hit's me that I'm almost twenty and I have no idea who I am or who I want to be.

yeah, very normal. I didn't get that stuff sorted until I was 30. My 20s sucked. My 20s were basically a decade of me running round like mad trying to DO something, trying to force an expectation of what my life should look like, usually based on others' opinions. That sucked. My 30s rock. I figured out who I was and what I wanted in life. I'd not have figured that out if it weren't for the previous journey through various jobs, crazy decisions (good and bad), and all that murky confusing stuff in between.

There's no rule that says you've got to have a glorious life plan right out of high school. You might not know what you want or who you are. That's why so many take a gap year before college or even in the middle of college. No worries. Just take the journey one day at a time.

[Kirahfaye]

It probably doesn't help, but I'm in my 50s and after spending nearly 18 years as a stay at home mom (no I don't consider stints working at a drug store or Walmart as my career) I have no idea what I am going to do when my daughter finishes homeschooling this year. But I'm not over concerned about it. I'll figure it out. So will you. Just don't worry over it. At your age you can try anything you find interesting. Something you never thought about doing, even.

[ShortNCuddlyAm]

It just hit's me that I'm almost twenty and I have no idea who I am or who I want to be.

I'm in my early 40s and I still get those moments from time to time! So does just about everyone I know - I'm beginning to accept that it might just be part of being human after all (and I go give myself an earworm... )

For me it's because I never "bought into" either of what seemed like the only two acceptable options for my generation - have a structured career, or/and bring up a family (preferably doing both without giving up anything). I hate interviews where one of the questions is "where do you see yourself in n years?" because apparently "doing something I mostly find interesting" isn't the right answer. I may not know who I am or who I want to be, but I have a very clear idea of who and what I'm not. It might help to look at it that way, actually - chip away the things you don't think you are or want to be. And make peace with the idea that whoever you are today, you might be someone else tomorrow - and there's nothing inherently wrong with that.

[absynthe1972]

I am 41 and still don't know. Apparently, being me isn't good enough, according to my family.

[Trethowan]

I am 41 and still don't know. Apparently, being me isn't good enough, according to my family.

Anything that starts or ends with "according to my family" needs to be summarily thrown out the window.

[Siead]

one word for sux in my life atm.

CAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRS

*beep beep beeep*-ing car needing repairs. and plates. and more repairs. and i'll be churning out about a grand (!) of money i don't even have to pay for this all. thank GOD my mechanic is like an uncle to me and will let me pay on installments but *beep beep* car and more censored swearing!